Dean's Tumblr - I’ve realized I have a huge fear of being alone. My girlfriend of 7 months & I are gonna break up any day now because we’ve been arguing every day over petty things for the past month and the tension rises. Even though I care about her more than *anything*, I found that I wouldn’t mind as long as I could forget her & find someone even better. I also find that when I’m down, I try to see friends or I’ll turn on the TV just to feel like someone is there or else I get worse. How do I overcome this?

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I've realized I have a huge fear of being alone. My girlfriend of 7 months & I are gonna break up any day now because we've been arguing every day over petty things for the past month and the tension rises. Even though I care about her more than *anything*, I found that I wouldn't mind as long as I could forget her & find someone even better. I also find that when I'm down, I try to see friends or I'll turn on the TV just to feel like someone is there or else I get worse. How do I overcome this?

It’s normal, you’re just so used to it that removing that almost feels like removing a limb. Realize that you were probably fine before, and will be again even if you don’t have a partner, it’s a learned fear that’s completely arbitrary.

That said though, what about this relationship right now? Is it really beyond saving, or is it stubbornness that’s simply preventing either of you from being supportive and loving, keeping you in this tug of war? And aside from that, do you really love this girl or do you just love having someone? There’s a gargantuan difference there, but it can ironically be quite hard to see when you’re in the middle of it like this.

Think about what you really think is best, and then act on it.

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